Thursday, May 24, 2007

Extreme Self Care

Last night my good friend Barbara and I had the privilege of sitting in the presence of angels, otherwise known as, The San Antonio Birth Doulas. The word “doula” is an ancient Greek word meaning “mothering the mother.” If you are not familiar with the work of the Birth Doulas, they are an organization dedicated to caring for a woman during pregnancy and childbirth. The basic elements of their program are:

· Extensive postpartum follow-up
· Bonding parent to child before birth
· Prenatal care education, nutrition, and parenting skills
· Building trusting relationships
· Observing home environments

Barbara and I marvel at these loving women’s selfless dedication to their clients and their mission. They provide nurturance, information, care, support, encouragement and comfort throughout the pregnancy, birth, and postpartum period.

We began to ponder and wonder. How would our world change if we each provided that same level of dedication to providing nurturance and extreme care to ourselves? How would that play out in our personal lives? We want to share some of our questions around these ponderings. They are:

· Would we continue to say “yes” when our entire being screams “no”?
· Would we spend more time focused on work or on building relationships?
· Would we honor our bodies by giving them appropriate nutrients and exercise or continue to shove in whatever is fast and soothing?
· Would we honor our need for solitude and inner quiet?
· Would the voice in our head give us words of encouragement, affirmation and acceptance rather than judgment, scolding and nagging?
· Would we take the time to really know ourselves intimately?
· Would we honor what we learn about ourselves?
· Would we have the courage to take risks that require us to go against commonly practiced beliefs that are no longer good for us?


We think we would like to give extreme self-care a try. If you are ready and willing, please join us in this journey.